I Didn’t Come This Far To Only Come This Far.

“I didn’t come this far to only come this far.
I hear some people saying things like: 
“When I make it”
, “When I get to the top”…

 “I’ll keep working hard until i get to the top”, 
“until I reach my goal”

Let me tell you something:
 There is no “END”!
If you reach your GOAL: SET A BIGGER GOAL.
If you get to the top of the mountain: Find a bigger mountain!

It’s the journey.
The continued pursuit of growth.
The constant seeking of improvement. 
That’s what makes life great.
That’s what makes a fulfilled life.

I didn’t come this far to only come this far!
When I get this GOAL: I’ll seek MORE. 
Not more things. MORE GROWTH.
Constantly pushing myself to be better.

I didn’t come this far to only come this far!
I came this far so I could be strong enough to go further!
So I would be good enough to push myself harder!

 I’m only getting started.
 This is just the beginning.

I AM proud of my achievements, but that doesn’t mean I’ll settle for them.

A true winner doesn’t seek only the title.
 A true winner seeks GROWTH. 
A true winner seeks GREATNESS.
It’s the JOURNEY. 

Don’t tell me it’s over. 

 If the journey wasn’t challenging, the destination wouldn’t be rewarding.
It’s the challenge that makes the greatness.

You can’t have a champion athlete without great competitors pushing them all the way.
You can’t have the greatest of all time without champions pushing them all the way.

It’s the journey. The process, that makes the greatness.

If you reach your GOAL: SET A BIGGER GOAL.
If you get to the top of the mountain: Find a bigger mountain!”


Thank you all for sharing this year important year with me.

I would say “The End” but there is so much more to come.

Some much for me to look forward to.

Goodbye for Now.  Happy New Year.




“Meant To Do Great Things” – One More Story.

“Because when I was young and I’d get an A on a history test.. or whatever.. I’d get this good feeling about all the things that great things I could be. And then I never became any of those things. ”  Chris Gardner. Pursuit Of Happyness

It’s New Year’s Eve and today marks the last day of my years long blog and project to bring more happiness into my life as well as the other’s around me.

I shared a lot with those who followed me this year but theres one personal story that I have not shared that I find  fitting to share now as we close the 2017 chapter and start a new one.

Because it not over.  For me it’s just beginning.

It may sound insignificant to most but 15 years ago a teacher, practically a stranger said something to me that has stayed with me to this day.

I was away on a school retreat when I was a junior in high school.  I was a good, not great student.  Shy, quiet, with a core group of friends.  Fairly undistinguished.    I had no idea who I was and what I was going to me.

We were broken into a group called a “break out”.  The purpose was the break out was to go around in a circle and everyone would say something nice about one person in the group.  This would go on until everyone had the opportunity to be praised.

When it was my turn to be showered with compliments, I got the usual genetic words “friendly, funny, supportive”, but what took me by surprise was the words from the teacher/chaperone of the group.

He was my 10th Grade Global Studies teacher.  We had never exchanged more than two words to each other that didn’t have to do with the Ottoman Empire or the spread of Judaism in whatever centrury it was.

What he said was , “I believe Bill is meant to do great things, even if we don’t know what they are yet.”

He nor I didn’t know it at the time.  But that comment has stayed with me all this time.  It has helped me get through some hard times and now more than ever I feel like I am poised and ready to make that step towards “great”.

Thank you Mr. Troy.  “May the road rise up and meet you”.



My 2017 Highlights

Near the end of every year I look back at the past twelve months and I always think to myself, “I could have  accomplished more,  I could have done better, I could have had more fun, I could have made the year more than what it was.”

This year is no exception, but not so fast, that just me. “Proud but never satisfied.”

While there is always room for improvement, these year had some big highlights that I would like to share.


  • We learned about Liam’s Autism and ADHD and how to adjust our parenting style.  He still sleeps in our bed so Operation Childless Bed is still in umm…progress but he’s my little buddy and I love our daily routine
  • Lucas started first grade.  Seems just like yesterday the news that he was going to be born sent me burning down my old life for the role of boss, caregiver, and daddy.
  • My stepson, Maddex, when from being a little squirt into a teenager.  The kid must have shot up 6 inches with his long hair and cracking voice.
  • I learned about my own ADHD and how to treat it, harness it, and use it to my advantage.  Sometimes it fails me.  Today even.
  • I traveled, a lot.  Near and Far.  Tourist traps and obscure trails.  I did everything that I could find time for and afford and loved every minute of it.
  • I improved my performance in the Tough Mudder and Boilermaker after a few years in decline
  • I lost 20 lbs.
  • I had my career year at work.
  • I found a level of balance that i can be proud of.
  • I came to understand what makes me happy and what doesn’t


it’s been said that you can only adjust your happiness a small amount.  That being said, when I look at how I felt at the end of 2016 and I how I feel now, I can feel the difference and so can the others around me.

I can look to 2018 with a sense of hope.

Only two more posts left.




2018 Resolutions

In 2017, I had 88 resolution.  8 per month for 11 months.

This year I will go back to being normal and narrow my scope.   I plan on writing down everyday directly under my 10 goals.

These are the 5 resolutions that I feel will most improve my day to day.

  1.  Get more sleep :  There is no substitute for a good night of sleep.  Sleep Deprivation can lead to poor focus, weight gain, and irritability. 

2   Cut out the white :  Cut back on anything white.  Flour, Salt, and sugar

3.  Lighten up : Why so serious? 

4.  Nice or nothing : intentional or not, I can be mean sometimes.  Learn to only say nice things to others or don’t say anything at all. 

5.   Find Time To do Nothing:  I love my structured life but there needs to times to relax, refresh, and chill.  



Obscurus CNY Blog Is Now Live

One of the keys to the Happiness Project was to figure you what makes you happy and what doesn’t.

One thing is for sure.  Exploring, even if it’s exploring my own backyard, makes me happy.

The blog posts that usually got the most views were the ones that involved my search for the lesser known attractions that brought character to the community.

I also learned this year that in order for a blog to be successful, you need to nail down an audience.  As happy as I was with the following my first blog created, I know that the subject matter was all over the place.  Sort of like my life.

So now it’s time to break it up and I will start with the Obscurus CNY blog.

I will back out there after the new year.  Get on the email list by going here.    here.    here.    

Now you can follow only my travel adventures without trudging through everything else.

It also gives me the added advantage to write a whim instead of the pressure of writing everyday.

Thank you for reading so far.


twHappy Travels.


Why I Started and Where I Ended Up.

There I was many reasons I felt compelled to start my own happiness project at the end of 2016.

For those that have joined recently, simply put, the happiness project was a years worth of resolutions geared towards making myself(and the other’s around me) happier.

Back to the reasons,  I think the biggest reason for my unhappiness was not having a clear direction to where I wanted to go and how I was gonna get there.

I had so many ideas and dreams but no clear way to execute or achieve them.

That’s one thing that my resolutions and travels helped me to achieve this year.  I took the time to learn about myself.  What works and what doesn’t.

As I look off into the distance and into the year 2018 ahead I know that this is the direction I’m going.  Is it the right one?  Who knows?  But that’s the way I am going to go.

What is that direction?

  1.  Make an impact on the community, outside the 4 walls of my work.
  2.   Find Happiness within the 4 walls of my home.
  3.   Explore, Discover, and Learn new things in my community, work, and leisure.
  4.   Set short-term and long-term goals, write them down, and work everyday to achieve them.


Said it before and I will say it again.  2017 was great but here’s to an amazing 2018



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Restaurant Hell Week & Christmas Leftovers

I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas.

If you are in the hospitality industry and are lucky enough to be closed or off on Christmas you know that it’s just a short reprieve before what I like to call “Restaurant Hell Week”

December 26th-Jan 1st can bring the craziest, cheapest, rudest customers out of hiding and into your restaurant doors all in the span of just a few days.

They are stressed from all their holiday spending.  Their kids are off all week and driving them insane.  And they are coming for YOU!!!!!.

Jan. 2nd is my favorite day of the year.  I don’t even mind that it’s slow.  It’s a moment to breathe and celebrate the survival of yet another holiday season.  Then the whole cycle begins again.

Oh well.  Here are some Christmas Leftovers before I begin wrapping up this project.