Daily Goal Setting

Holy Shit….after today there is only 10 days left in 2017.  Been spending a lot of time, in the middle of all this holiday craziness, thinking about what I want to accomplish in 2018.

2017 was a big year for me.  So much work was put in but I know that in 2018 I need to build on everything that I learned this year.

On thing that all successful people have in common is “daily rituals”.  Things they do every day to make sure they set themselves up to make the day a productive and successful one.

Some read  uplifting material , some hit the gym, some do something as simple as drinking a glass of water first thing when they wake up.

A good amount of my resolutions this year revolved around creating a “ritual”.  Some where successful, like “plan each day in advance” and some I struggled with like “always drink 8 glasses of water.”

One ritual that I have just worked into my daily routine is to write out my goals, Everyday.

This one comes from Time Management Expert, Brian Tracy.

What you do is; take a spiral notebook and every morning you write down 10 goals that you want to accomplish in the next 12 months.  Always write it in the first person and with a time frame.

You don’t write : “I will lose weight.:

Instead write : “I weigh xxx number of pounds by xxxx date”

No more than 10-15 goals at a time and no longer than 12 months of a deadline.

Then everyday take action towards your goals.  If you don’t make the deadline, don’t abandon it, just make a new deadline.

Each day turn the page and write your goals without looking to the previous page.  At first, your goals will change from day-to-day but after a while, your goals will “fix” and the order will change by priority.

I have been doing these for over a month and have already accomplished a few goals.

How do you track your goals?

 

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August Resolutions :Use A Bullet Journal

If you mind is a busy a mine, the only way to keep all the important imput from going in one ear and out the other is to write it down . 

I write everything down.  Everything.  If I don’t…it’s gone… Only to return at the most inopportune time.  People know this so well  about me that they are constantly reminding me to write things down.  Some do me one better and write it down for me.  

I make lists.  Lists about everything.  To do lists.  Repair lists.  Shopping lists.  Bucket lists. 

The problem is that there was no way I could organize this lists and random notes.  I would lose them and have to start over.  

So I stumbled upon a solution that works for me.  

The Bullet Journal

It’s like a regular notebook but instead of lines it has dots that resemble graph paper for those with artistic ability.  

But the thing that sets it apart is the index.  Because each page is numbered, I can find any note by jotting it down in the index.  

I’m about three weeks in and I love it.  

Slow Down In August

Once the weather turned in early April, I was eager to come out of hibernation and spend the warm months out of my house and exploring as much as could. 

By Mid July it was too much of a good thing and I found myself burnt out by the constant rounding around and pressure to find a new place to go.  

So this month I’m focusing on balancing out my life even more.   I will focus on only traveling two or three days a week as opposed to  five to six days.  

Instead I’m focusing on working on the house, slowing it down, and relaxing.  

Tonight…I’m hanging out by the new Lakeview Amphitheatre with a cold 🍺.  

Eat That Frog – Tackling Procrastination

I just spent the last half hour wearing a ninja turtle mask and sitting across the floor from Liam acting as his “mirror”.  Mimicking his every move and sound much to his delight.   

Broke his heart when I had to stop to get some stuff done.  Like this.  

Let’s talk about “eating 🐸 s”.  No not literally.  It’s a popular figure of speech used to tackle procrastination.  

“Mark Twain once said that if the first thing you do each morning is to eat a live frog, you can go through the day with the satisfaction of knowing that that is probably the worst thing that is going to happen to you all day long”. Brian Tracy
Your “frog” is the the least exciting, least enjoyable task that you must accomplish.  Most people, including myself avoid these tasks like the plague.

I love to procrastinate.  Which is sometimes a good thing depending on the situation.  But more often than not it can lead at a lot of stress and anxiety.  

So this month, I decided to “eat my frog” first thing in the morning.  

Each morning and afternoon I would make my To-Do list and then I would select the item that I wanted to do the least.  

At work it might be… putting the food order away, or counting the beer cooler on Mondays, or checking the employee schedule.  

At home, mowing the lawn, doing the dishes, cooking.  

What I found by doing all these things first was that I would get more done.  The saying is correct.  Once then worst was out of the way, it made the rest of the day go by more smoothly.  

There are so many tactics for handling procrastination but I would suggest reading Brian Tracy’s seminar of the same name, Eat that Frog.  Or practicing the 5 second rule, which I covered earlier in the year.   

Making it all happen

One thing thats different about me this year is that I certainly don’t have very much “idle time”.  

My Resolutions keep me busy from sun up to so sun down almost every day.   Trying to make time for work, time to exercise, time for others, time to be silly, time for projects can be very exhausting.  No different from anyone else.

To make it all happen I have to use all favorite time management techniques.

1.  Plan each day in advance – used to have every 15 Minutes planned out but that made me more stressed because of all the unpredictability of life.   Now I just jot down a rough outline of what I want to accomplish the night before.

2.  Delegate – if you are lucky to have people working under you.  Delegate anything that can be done just as good or better to someone else.  This frees you up to focus on the tasks only you can or should handle

3.  Follow the 2 Minutes Rule – anything that can be done in 2 min or less do right away.  Saving large chunks of time for big projects. 

4.  also follow the 5 second rule – see my previous article for more info on this

5.  Set a quitting time – decide in advance when you are going to stop working then do something relaxing. 

6.   take a day off once a week.  

What is The 5 Second Rule?

I’m not talking about the folklore “5 second Rule”  where ” the fivesecond rule states that food (or sometimes cutlery) dropped on the ground will not be significantly contaminated with bacteria if it is picked up within five seconds of being dropped.”

I’m talking about the concept coined by Mel Robins, an American on-air  CNN commentator, contributing editor for Success Magazines. Robbins is best known for her coverage of the George Zimmerman trial and host of A&E’s Monster In-Laws.  Where she learned that it takes about 5 seconds for your brain to “talk you out” of doing something.  Whether it’s speaking up in a meeting, going up and talking to someone you find attractive,  or the decision to hit the snooze button over and over again.

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The rule is a form of Metacognition : which in the most simplistic definition means  “to trick your own mind”.

” The moment you feel yourself hesitate (when you know you should do something) start counting backward 5-4-3-2-1, the GO. The Rule is a proven, form of metacognition. When you use it, you shift mental gears, interrupt your habit of overthinking and awaken your pre-frontal cortex – making change easy. The rule acts as a “starting ritual” that breaks bad habits and triggers positive new behavior change.”  Mel Robins

 

 click here to learn more

I started reading Mel’s book the The Five Second Rule and I immediately fell in love with it.  I set out this month to practice and master the concept.  

Clark’s Reservation – Tough Mudder Training

It’s hard to say what my favorite obstacle is at the 10-12 Mile, 20+ obstacle Tough Mudder.  Besides a whole lot or running and a whole lot of mud.   There are many difficult obstacles that test your strength, agility, teamwork, and courage.  

If you don’t know what the Tough Mudder is all about watch this video

I might not be able to tell you my favorite by I can certainly tell you which one fills me with dred.  

It’s not electro – shock therapy – speaks for itself

Not the Artic Enema ..which feels like you are being stabbed by ice picks

And not The Everest which is harder than it looks


It’s The Cliffhanger… I know.  For those who have done a TM yourself that’s probably not what you were expecting.  The Cliffhanger refers to the super steep,  super long, and super muddy climb up a mountain or hill.  It usually comes when you’re already exhausted and by the time you reach the top you can taste your own blood from exertion.  

So this year I found the perfect place to to train for this bitch.  Clark’s Reservation has the perfect terrain and elevation to prepare myself.    Especially these never ending flight of stairs


Monday Morning Attitude and the Parkway

It’s hard to measure “happiness improvement” on a day to day basis.   It’s not something that is tangible.   I spend all day with myself.  But I think I found one notable improvement.  My mood on Monday Morning.  

Let me explain.  Like I have mentioned before,   I have to wake up at 3am every Monday and head off to work to count and weigh all the food and beverage in the restaurant.  Measure all the liquor in the bottles and lift every tapped keg of beer.  I then have to imput all the numbers and compare them with the sales rung in on the POS and look for mistakes.   

By then it’s 6AM and it’s time to put a way the Food Order which has been stacked in either the freezer, walk in cooler, or back room over night.   After that it’s on to my regular opening responsibilities while catching up a delagating tasks after a busy weekend.   

By the time my guests and most employees arrive at 11am, I’m usually a ravng lunatic.  Short tempered and anti social is an understatement.  I’m just counting the seconds before I can get home and lounge the evening away.  

But I’ve noticed that in recent weeks that has all disappeared.   After taking a day off, I am ready to take on the week with a new found spirit and energy.  In addition to drinking all my water, I have downed an entire pot of offer.   I do my best to be cheerful and helpful to all my employees who are also tired from a very long weekend.  It’s now 730pm and I am getting ready for a run. 

Since I left work at 3Pm.  I have taken Liam to the Doctor, worked outside on the yard, did all my household tasks, and we took the kid to the lake for a stroll.   He’s so cute in this little voice “come back her futtterfry”.  #ThankGodItsMonday

Syracuse University Carrier Dome in the distance

That’s  Liam in the distance


Thought this Chevy was beautiful.

March Recap Part 2

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Run 3 times a week.

Started out the month great.  Running 3 days a week as well as going to the gym 3 times a week.  Then “Stella” took over.  No not the brew, which sounds good right now, but the winter storm.  In the aftermath my work schedule took over and I can honestly say that I did not keep my resolution completely.  Out of 6 scheduled workouts a week I probably averaged about 4 work outs per.    Good news is that I am down 13lbs from Jan 1 and my upper half is starting to show signs of some definition as the warmer months …fingers crossed…are coming.

 

Get in the Spirit.

First the first time since I was a kid, I personally decorated my home for a holiday.  I had a lot of fun doing it.  I even wore green on St. Patrick’s day.  I sported the Syracuse Basketball sports band…even though they suck.   I know it was small but it’s more than I have done in the past.  I feel guilty being a kill joy so I look forward to celebrating future holidays…maybe I will be Santa Clause this year…eyes rolling.

 

Manage my Mid-day.

Another successful resolution.  I wrote earlier in the month how I would usually be “blown out” as one of my manager’s put it by 2 in the afternoon.  Wouldn’t return to productive mode until about 5pm.  It only took a little focus and planning and I was able to manufacture some productive time in the afternoon which would carry over into the evening until bed.  Check back to my “Manage the Mid” post earlier in the month for more details.

 

Come back Tomorrow for the March Conclusion.

Thank you

 

“Liam…Why you gotta mess with me?”

After getting some much needed sleep last night,  I was feeling a lot better about things and was finally ready to get back to the”Happiness Grind” so to speak

At work, I found myself with a block of time after passing off the responsibility of writing the schedule to one of my managers.  (Delegation).  I used that time to clean out my bag and get organized. Technically cleaning out my storage areas.  

Work flowed smoothly and soon I was home where I was immediately “tagged in” by my wife.   

I went to work on my usual self imposed “hunny do” list while Liam torpedoed himself from room to room.   I laid out the huge sack of unsorted socks onto the bed.   There we so many that once they were laid out they covered the entire bed.   Just as I began pairing them up Liam decided that was time to hop up on the bed and run through the socks and Spiderman leap of the bed  with a menical laugh. Then is would mount the bed at the furthest point from me a go “you who” his version of  “you can’t catch me” and do it again. Sending the socks flying.  At first I was annoyed , “why you gotta mess with me?” but then soon I was laughing hysterically.   He gave me a big hug.  Sometimes your kids can inspire you to lighten up and stop being so serious  “Come on, let get out of here” I took him to Sweet Frog and we shared an ice cream.  

Enjoy now Bill….You will never have this again

Check back the next couple days for the March  recap as well as the April Resolutions reveal.