Rehoboth Beach Day 1

After settling in at the hotel when headed over to the boardwalk to do some exploring.  

The one time I want to just lay in the sun and relax it’s 60 and rainy…oh well.  This was the first time that Maddex and Liam have seen the ocean.  

Liam was his loveable spaztasktic self literally shaking with excitement whenever the waves would reach is feet. 

Spent the rest of the night checking out the local shops and quick bites. 

I love me a good boardwalk in a beach resort town

Take A Real Vacation

I stated in May that I don’t take vacations like most people.  Meaning I usually head to some busy city or tourist attraction and am literally go go go for the duration of my time away.   As much as I enjoy that lifestyle I am often left more exhausted then when I began.

Life has been crazy for the first 5 months of the year.  Having a record year in work,  my first year as a homeowner, busy family man, and a year long project have been keeping me busy.

It’s time for a break.  And my family deserves one as well

I need to lay on a beach.  I need to see the ocean.  I need to drink a 48 oz margarita.

So one of my resolutions this month is to take an actual vacation.   No busy cities, no itineraries, no well laid plans.

I can’t give up my old style completely can I?  After 5 days of relaxation I will follow that up with the annual Tough Mudder in Richmond Virgina.  No better way to end a vacation.

May Recap Part 2

 Work Outside

May had a mixture of good weather and very rainy weather.  My house is located close proximity to the Erie Canal and a few “lakes” form in all corners of our yard.  Plus the restaurant has been crazy most of the month.  So I didn’t get as much done as I would like.  But I’m starting to realize that no amount of tasks completed is ever enough in my eyes.

None the less I wasable to prune some trees and get most of the foundation, trim, and porch painted.   It’s turning out really nice.

My wife was able to de-weed the flower beds and create a sleek rock wall.


Print Memories

The idea of going to a local Walgreens or Wal-Mart to develop pictures from my phone or camera sounded like a daunting task.   But what I fool I am, given modern technology I learned that I could take photos from Facebook and Dropbox and have them delivered to my house right from Walmart.  I’m told that Shutterfly is awesome too and cheap if you have promo codes.

I picked out 50 photos quick and was charged a whole $6 with free shipping.  Who knew..?


Teach and Learn

Kind of an ambiguous resolution because my work as a manager revolves around teaching people something everyday and in turn learning something knew once in a while. 45768-James-Oppenheim-Quote-The-foolish-man-seeks-happiness-in-the.

This month I had my assistant teach me about our online hiring and recruit system…took me a while it get it down…one thing that I wish stayed on paper.


Extreme Diet

Had a guest tell me today that I lost weight.  So that felt good.  lol.  I did super well for the first half of the month.  Almost completely refraining from red meat and fried food.  That all kind of went out the window when I visited New York.  But I came to the realization that dieting wasn’t going to make me happy.   Being fit and healthy would.

I love food.  So I will be happy with splurging on the good stuff in moderation and keeping up with my running and gym routine.



5 Months down and I’m feeling pretty good.  Another busy month Ahead for June.

My Personal “Hell Week” Begins

“Hell Week” is a Navy Seals term that is defined as “the defining event of BUD/S training. It is held early on  before the Navy makes an expensive investment in SEAL operational training. Hell Week consists of 5 1/2 days of cold, wet, brutally difficult operational training on fewer than four hours of sleep.”

For me, Hell Week is the week before I take a vacation from work.  I’m quite the control freak and in last 4 plus years I have only taken a full week vacation AWAY from the restaurant twice.

Its stressing me out so much because Hell Week is being followed by a few crazy weeks already.  Since the beginning of May my restaurant has been crazy busy.  Last week was the busiest week in well over a decade,  looks like the recession is far behind us.

So busy in fact that we finished the week with a total system crash…Credit cards were down, internet couldn’t be accessed, bills couldn’t be paid, and inventory couldn’t be completed.

So the week started with a 330AM arrival time to work on patching the network and by the time the computer was fixed and all the paperwork we done it was 6pm.


No time to slow down.  Completed the last week of the C25K program.  Now onto the 10K program


Might be busy but still had time to take the family for ice cream in the rain.

What is The 5 Second Rule?

I’m not talking about the folklore “5 second Rule”  where ” the fivesecond rule states that food (or sometimes cutlery) dropped on the ground will not be significantly contaminated with bacteria if it is picked up within five seconds of being dropped.”

I’m talking about the concept coined by Mel Robins, an American on-air  CNN commentator, contributing editor for Success Magazines. Robbins is best known for her coverage of the George Zimmerman trial and host of A&E’s Monster In-Laws.  Where she learned that it takes about 5 seconds for your brain to “talk you out” of doing something.  Whether it’s speaking up in a meeting, going up and talking to someone you find attractive,  or the decision to hit the snooze button over and over again.


The rule is a form of Metacognition : which in the most simplistic definition means  “to trick your own mind”.

” The moment you feel yourself hesitate (when you know you should do something) start counting backward 5-4-3-2-1, the GO. The Rule is a proven, form of metacognition. When you use it, you shift mental gears, interrupt your habit of overthinking and awaken your pre-frontal cortex – making change easy. The rule acts as a “starting ritual” that breaks bad habits and triggers positive new behavior change.”  Mel Robins


 click here to learn more

I started reading Mel’s book the The Five Second Rule and I immediately fell in love with it.  I set out this month to practice and master the concept.  

Indulge In A Modest Splurge

I don’t know what’s in these little “zucchini cakes” my wife made but they are delicious.   I needed a healthy dinner because I did cheat a little on my diet today when  I sampled some of our new menu selection…there might have been some red meat involved…but I didn’t want it to go to waste.  

After spending next to no money on “non-essential” items for the last few months I am ready to indulge in a few modest splurges.   

To qualify, any money I spend I myself needes to help me move towards a goal or fullfill a resolution which in turn, boosts Happiness.

1.  A 17ft ladder – work on the outside of the house.  Needed to watch a video tutorial to figure out  all it’s 24! Setting…

2.  New dresser –  tackle a nagging task.  What’s with all these multilingual instructions these days…no text just pictures…took way longer than it should have.   Made me feel like I was brain damaged.    Since my boarding house days, proper furniture was always an afterthought.   Most furniture was handed down or picked up off the side of the road.  

3.  A new laptop.  Nothing extravagant.  Just a simple Chromebook.  I broke my laptop two days after the blog launched and not having one has made life very difficult.  

I was pleasantly surprised when I left work to see that it was warming up and the sun came out.  I rushed home to work on  painting the trim of the garage door before Patti went to work.  

Then we are out of here for the afternoon.  

Clark’s Reservation – Tough Mudder Training

It’s hard to say what my favorite obstacle is at the 10-12 Mile, 20+ obstacle Tough Mudder.  Besides a whole lot or running and a whole lot of mud.   There are many difficult obstacles that test your strength, agility, teamwork, and courage.  

If you don’t know what the Tough Mudder is all about watch this video

I might not be able to tell you my favorite by I can certainly tell you which one fills me with dred.  

It’s not electro – shock therapy – speaks for itself

Not the Artic Enema ..which feels like you are being stabbed by ice picks

And not The Everest which is harder than it looks

It’s The Cliffhanger… I know.  For those who have done a TM yourself that’s probably not what you were expecting.  The Cliffhanger refers to the super steep,  super long, and super muddy climb up a mountain or hill.  It usually comes when you’re already exhausted and by the time you reach the top you can taste your own blood from exertion.  

So this year I found the perfect place to to train for this bitch.  Clark’s Reservation has the perfect terrain and elevation to prepare myself.    Especially these never ending flight of stairs

“Extreme” Dieting – well for me at least.

This year’s Tough Mudder in Virginia is only 40 days away on June 9th and I’m determined to walk out of  Richmond with my head held high.  So for the month of May I will be upping my dietary restrictions as well as my exercise regimen.    Dieting is very hard for me.  I work in a full service restaurant that has enough menu items to fill a twenty page menu.  I’m a fat kid at heart,  I love my pizza, chicken wings, and candy.  I remember when I had to sit out of the first football game one season because I was over the weight limit for my age.  Dieting and exercise (and the removal of my rib padding) endured I made weight the following week.

As for exercise,  I’m holding steady with three days jogging , two days at the gym.   Usually 30 minutes each.    I’m looking to up it to 5 days jogging, 3 days hitting the weights.  To do anymore I will need to “manufacture” some time.  Let me pencil in those 4:AM wake ups again.

With the exception of special occasions (I am heading to NYC in two weeks) I plan on holding myself to the following dietary restrictions.

  1.  No Fried  Food
  2. No  Red Meat
  3.   No Pork
  4.  No candy, cookies, or other baked goods
  5. Limit Bread  consumption
  6.  One Soda per day
  7.   One cream per coffee – down from three.


I’m looking to drop about 12 lbs in this calendar month.    Wish me luck.

On another note… check out my baby from a year ago.  Look at that hair😭

April Conclusion

Listen / Engage

I would say that I’ve made a lot of improvements in the last few weeks.  As hard as it is for me to focus one thing at a time, practice brings improved performance.  Sometimes I need to be reminded to put the phone down, respond, and listen but I get better everyday.

Read more about this resolution here  Get your head out of the clouds and focus / Fasting Part 1



Go off the Path

Probably on of more successful resolutions.  I spent the last month exploring new places or sections of familiar places right in my own section of New York.  I get so much joy by taking off for a day or just a few hours and clear my head.

Also tried a lot of new foods.

Lamb gyro with feta cheese and kalamata olives

Chinese Bubble Tea

Zucchini Lasagna.

Black bean burgers


Much more exploring to happen in May.



I feel better.  Happier and Healthier.  But I can’t shake the feeling that here is something “missing” in this happiness puzzle.  I couldn’t tell you what it is.  Maybe the next 8 months will give me some direction.  Wow,  one third of the project is over.  I wonder if the changes are noticeable?

April leftovers