Find an area of refuge

I feel that’s important for everyone to have their own place.  

A place to be alone.  A place to reflect and clear the mind.  

For me.  I actually have a few places I go to write, to think, to be happy

The home office : George Carlin once said “I just need a little place for my stuff.” And that’s what my former pantry, hide away is.  The family can have the rest of the house.  It can’t be more that 6ft by 6 ft.   But it contains 30 years of memories.

The back deck: Not many things more relaxing than sitting out on the back deck while the sun sets after a long day.  

Empty Road or Trail at 5AM: inner peace and an endorphin rush.   Jogging as the sun comes up before the rest of the world rushes around you and sweeps you away.

The Restaurant Roof: when things get stressful in work or life there is one place I can go where no one will find me.  Up the utility ladder of my restaurant.   Whether is early in the morning or after a punishing rush.  15 ft in the air feels like miles away from all troubles.  

What If You Could Control Your Dreams?

Here is where I might lose some of you.  

Long before marriage, children, career, and home ownership.  I used to have hobbies and interests.  I know right?

And one interest can be considered a little weird.  

I was fascinated in the subconscious mind;  Lucid Dreaming,  Astral Projection, and O.B.E.  (out of body experience)


Lucid dreaming is the ability to become aware that you are in a dream while dreaming.  If you are good enough at is you can manipulate your dreams.  

Astral Projection and O.B.E.  was essentially the same thing.  The act of separating ones mind/consciousness from your body to explore other realms.   We will take that down the road 

Still with me?   OK.

This month I start working on my goal of achieving Lucid Dreaming.   It can take some time so I wanted to work on making the process a habit.  I know that result can take longer to accomplish.

So one resolution is wear my sleep mask.  I purchased a sleep mask last year called the “Remee – REM enhancing eye-mask”  (REM stands for rapid eye movement.  Which is the part of sleep cycle where dreaming occurs)]

The Remee is basically a blindfold with a few circuits inside.  Under the blindfold it “emits light patterns that can appear as visual amonalities in your dreams to trigger lucidity”.    That means that if you see these patterns in your dreams it should help you realize that your dreaming.  


Imagine if you could control your own dreams.  What would you do?  Where would you go.  

It kind of like being the “One” of your own “Matrix”  When Morpheus says to Neo, ” When the Matrix was first built, there was a man born inside who had the ability to change whatever he wanted, to remake the Matrix as he saw fit”  

Would you fly away?  Would you swim under water?  Would you practice tennis ?  As one lucid dreamer reported doing.


So  far his month I have practiced wearing the mask over night.  It takes a little getting used to.  Now that I am used to wearing it.  I will work on my ‘Dream Recall”.  Step one is to keep a dream journal as soon as I wake up  

I will keep you posted on my progress



Rehoboth Beach Day 1

After settling in at the hotel when headed over to the boardwalk to do some exploring.  

The one time I want to just lay in the sun and relax it’s 60 and rainy…oh well.  This was the first time that Maddex and Liam have seen the ocean.  

Liam was his loveable spaztasktic self literally shaking with excitement whenever the waves would reach is feet. 

Spent the rest of the night checking out the local shops and quick bites. 

I love me a good boardwalk in a beach resort town

Take A Real Vacation

I stated in May that I don’t take vacations like most people.  Meaning I usually head to some busy city or tourist attraction and am literally go go go for the duration of my time away.   As much as I enjoy that lifestyle I am often left more exhausted then when I began.

Life has been crazy for the first 5 months of the year.  Having a record year in work,  my first year as a homeowner, busy family man, and a year long project have been keeping me busy.

It’s time for a break.  And my family deserves one as well

I need to lay on a beach.  I need to see the ocean.  I need to drink a 48 oz margarita.

So one of my resolutions this month is to take an actual vacation.   No busy cities, no itineraries, no well laid plans.

I can’t give up my old style completely can I?  After 5 days of relaxation I will follow that up with the annual Tough Mudder in Richmond Virgina.  No better way to end a vacation.

May Recap Part 2

 Work Outside

May had a mixture of good weather and very rainy weather.  My house is located close proximity to the Erie Canal and a few “lakes” form in all corners of our yard.  Plus the restaurant has been crazy most of the month.  So I didn’t get as much done as I would like.  But I’m starting to realize that no amount of tasks completed is ever enough in my eyes.

None the less I wasable to prune some trees and get most of the foundation, trim, and porch painted.   It’s turning out really nice.

My wife was able to de-weed the flower beds and create a sleek rock wall.


Print Memories

The idea of going to a local Walgreens or Wal-Mart to develop pictures from my phone or camera sounded like a daunting task.   But what I fool I am, given modern technology I learned that I could take photos from Facebook and Dropbox and have them delivered to my house right from Walmart.  I’m told that Shutterfly is awesome too and cheap if you have promo codes.

I picked out 50 photos quick and was charged a whole $6 with free shipping.  Who knew..?


Teach and Learn

Kind of an ambiguous resolution because my work as a manager revolves around teaching people something everyday and in turn learning something knew once in a while. 45768-James-Oppenheim-Quote-The-foolish-man-seeks-happiness-in-the.

This month I had my assistant teach me about our online hiring and recruit system…took me a while it get it down…one thing that I wish stayed on paper.


Extreme Diet

Had a guest tell me today that I lost weight.  So that felt good.  lol.  I did super well for the first half of the month.  Almost completely refraining from red meat and fried food.  That all kind of went out the window when I visited New York.  But I came to the realization that dieting wasn’t going to make me happy.   Being fit and healthy would.

I love food.  So I will be happy with splurging on the good stuff in moderation and keeping up with my running and gym routine.



5 Months down and I’m feeling pretty good.  Another busy month Ahead for June.

My Personal “Hell Week” Begins

“Hell Week” is a Navy Seals term that is defined as “the defining event of BUD/S training. It is held early on  before the Navy makes an expensive investment in SEAL operational training. Hell Week consists of 5 1/2 days of cold, wet, brutally difficult operational training on fewer than four hours of sleep.”

For me, Hell Week is the week before I take a vacation from work.  I’m quite the control freak and in last 4 plus years I have only taken a full week vacation AWAY from the restaurant twice.

Its stressing me out so much because Hell Week is being followed by a few crazy weeks already.  Since the beginning of May my restaurant has been crazy busy.  Last week was the busiest week in well over a decade,  looks like the recession is far behind us.

So busy in fact that we finished the week with a total system crash…Credit cards were down, internet couldn’t be accessed, bills couldn’t be paid, and inventory couldn’t be completed.

So the week started with a 330AM arrival time to work on patching the network and by the time the computer was fixed and all the paperwork we done it was 6pm.


No time to slow down.  Completed the last week of the C25K program.  Now onto the 10K program


Might be busy but still had time to take the family for ice cream in the rain.

Pratts falls

Spent a wet evening scoping out the main trail at Pratts Falls on Monday.   There are at least 4 other trails that span 1.5 to 2.6 miles.  But this boy wasn’t having it.  He needed to jump in the puddles.