I remember a long time ago when my girlfriend’s mother and girlfriend’s father sat me down because they had been concerned that I don’t smile enough. That my long gaps without smiling was “un-nerving”. Thankfully, they came to get to know me a little better and I still keep in touch with that family. But this was actually a common theme for me.
I’ve come across this problem many times in my life. Where I need to be reminded to smile or I would get asked in I am unhappy or mad. Even though I was perfectly content and had nothing bothering me.
I learned that is extremely common for people with ADHD to not smile. The reasons vary. Maybe they have a billion things going on in there head. Maybe that are so focused on all the stimulus around them that smiling is an after thought AKA “Hyperfocus”. Both these are true in my case.
In today’s world the natural scowl on someone’s face is called RBF -resting bitch face. And I have never had myself associated with that term until my boss pointed it out. I need to find a way to change this.
A genuine smile can light up the world and remove those invisible walls that separate you from other people.
“Unapproachable” That’s another word that has been thrown around in my direction.
ADHD is a neurological disability but it’s also a behavioral disability, in my opinon. So the way I see it. I am still responsible for my behavior and must take measures to take symptoms. If you look back at all my resolutions. So many of them are geared towards tackling a symptom of ADHD, well before I even thought I had it.
Time to “fake it until I make it”, as the old saying goes. This month I will focus on making sure I am mindful of my facial expressions. Break the ice where necessary, and appear to me more friendly than I was before. I know I don’t make it easy for people but for those few that have broken through this icy exterior you will find a warm and nice person.