Like so many other people, I found 2016 to be a not very good year. But my year was bad because of politics, the economy, or the vast string of celebrity deaths. As 2016 drew to a close I found myself to probably me the most unhappy that I have ever been. Unhappy with my work, my marriage, and with life in general. The problem was that the reason for my unhappiness was unclear. I had a have job, a recently purchased house, and a beautiful family, but I found myself constantly trying to escape to a new life.
I knew I had to find a way to fix these feelings of discontent. It wasn’t until I found an audio book named THE HAPPINESS PROJECT, by Gretchen Rubin that I hoped would point me in the right direction. The Happiness Project Chronicles a year in the life of a NYC wife and mother of two as she makes 12 months of resolutions all centered about making her happier. Was it easy for her? Of course not. But after a year of blogging about her experience she found herself the happiest she had ever been and it didn’t require a major life change. It inspired me to start my own Happiness Project. January 1st is just around the corner and I can’t wait to get started
A little bit about myself before I dive into why I am starting a Happiness project.
I’m 30 years old living in a small suburb near to Syracuse, New York. I am married with 3 boys. Maddex (11) technically my step son but I love and care for him like my own, Lucas (5) lives with his Mother in Buffalo when he is not with us. Liam (2) we had shortly after we got married. My wife Patti and I have been together almost 5 years now.
I work as a General manager in a local restaurant and my wife works a server at a different restaurant. We don’t rely on babysitters so we have to work opposite shifts which can prove very difficult.
So Why am I starting a happiness project? As I said about there was no major, defining reason for my unhappiness. Just a lot of small ones.
– not on the top of my game a work : after three straight years of being in the upper tier of performance in my company, my performance seems to have peaked Now i have slipped into the mediocre at least in my own mind
lack of close relationships: Throughout my life I have only have a couple close friends at a time. My two best friends in my adult life have both more off intro their own adult lives
lack of relationship with, my wife Patti : Patti leaving her job and going back to Zebbs (restaurant) added new stress on our relationship. Sure she was making more money which was a huge source of stress when she wasn’t. But now she was working 5 nights a week and going in at 5. Which gave us a few minutes together each of those days. And Monday nights. sometimes we would get luck with a Friday night or Tuesday morning but that was occasional.
amount of time seeing Luke: my first son Lucas, I have had trouble coping with only seeing him every other weekend. his mother has recently gotten engaged with has been this anxiety escalate.
struggles with work – loosing my right hand and assistant in the middle of the year has proved a challenge. My current management team is good but we still have a lot of growing to do
It’s NYE obviously,
Check out my post explaining exactly what a happiness project consists off.
Then check back for January’s resolutions