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Road Trip to Delaware

 

Tied up as many loose ends as I could this morning, then packed Patti, Maddex and Liam in the car and pointed the car south for Delaware.  Reheboth Beach to be more specific.

Why Delaware?  1.  It’s on the way to our final destination in Virginia.  2. It’s awesome. 3.  I have fond memories of this area. (always a catch isn’t there?)

It was the last vacation I ever took with my immediate family.   It was the summer of 06 and I was in a very isolated point in my life.  I had just withdrew from College and lost my finance in the same day that past February.

I entered a state of seclusion where I hid from the outside world.  Only emerging  work in restaurants, which was about 80 hours a week.  I had a couple of close friends that refused to let me become a total hermit.

However, my mom besieged me to take a week off to drive her, my grandmother, and younger brother down to see my Aunt in Delaware.

The trip was very therapeutic.  I spent the week thinking about how there was so much more out there.  That I was barely living a “half life”.  When I returned I enrolled in the Culinary Arts Program and began piecing my life together.

Surviving the car ride is the hard part.  Getting down route 81 and then horrifying  476 when you get to Philadelphia and traffic turns into a slow crawl for a good hour.  You’re in the homestretch once your cross into Delaware’s RT 1S.

We made it to our destination about 430PM.  Let the vacation begin.

 

 

 

I know I’m Lame…but I miss Quiznos. 

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Introduction

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Like so many other people, I found 2016 to be a not very good year.  But my year was bad because of politics, the economy, or the vast string of celebrity deaths.  As 2016 drew to a close I found myself to probably me the most unhappy that I have ever been.  Unhappy with my work, my marriage, and with life in general.  The problem was that the reason for my unhappiness was unclear.  I had a have job, a recently purchased house, and a beautiful family, but I found myself constantly trying to escape to a new life.

I knew I had to find a way to fix these feelings of discontent.  It wasn’t until I found an audio book named THE HAPPINESS PROJECT, by Gretchen Rubin that I hoped would point me in the right direction.  The Happiness Project Chronicles a year in the life of a NYC wife and mother of two as she makes 12 months of resolutions all centered about making her happier.  Was it easy for her? Of course not.  But after a year of blogging about her experience she found herself the happiest she had ever been and it didn’t require a major life change.  It inspired me to start my own Happiness Project.  January 1st is just around the corner and I can’t wait to get started

Bill

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December 31st

A little bit about myself before I dive into why I am starting a Happiness project.

I’m 30 years old living in a small suburb near to Syracuse, New York.  I am married with 3 boys.  Maddex (11) technically my step son but I love and care for him like my own, Lucas (5) lives with his Mother in Buffalo when he is not with us. Liam (2) we had shortly after we got married.  My wife Patti and I have been together almost 5 years now.

I work as a General manager in a local restaurant and my wife works a server at a different restaurant.  We don’t rely on babysitters so we have to work opposite shifts which can prove very difficult.

So Why am I starting a happiness project?  As I said about there was no major, defining reason for my unhappiness.  Just a lot of small ones.

– not on the top of my game a work : after three straight years of being in the upper tier of performance in my company, my performance seems to have peaked Now i have slipped into the mediocre at least in my own mind

lack of close relationships: Throughout my life I have only have a couple close friends at a time. My two best friends in my adult life  have both more off intro their own adult lives

lack of relationship with,  my wife Patti : Patti leaving her job and going back to Zebbs (restaurant) added new stress on our relationship. Sure she was making more money which was a huge source of stress when she wasn’t. But now she was working 5 nights a week and going in at 5. Which gave us a few minutes together each of those days. And Monday nights. sometimes we would get luck with a Friday night or Tuesday morning but that was occasional.

amount of time seeing  Luke: my first son Lucas, I have had trouble coping with only seeing him every other weekend. his mother has recently gotten engaged with has been this anxiety escalate.

struggles with work – loosing my right hand and assistant in the middle of the year has proved a challenge. My current management team is good but we still have a lot of growing to do

It’s NYE obviously,

Check out my post explaining exactly what a happiness project consists off.

Then check back  for January’s resolutions

Walking Tour : Wescott, Syracuse

Wescott is an awesome neighborhood located not too far from the Syracuse University Campus.  

Home too many students, professors, alumni, and all ranges of income levels : it is quite the melting pot of culture. 

Home of the best Mexican Restaurant. 

Alto Cinco.  Stop in an have a real margarita.  

Syracuse Bacon Fest … Needed More Than One Day

When they announced the first Annual Bacon Fest in Downtown Syracuse’s, Clinton Square I was like “Yes!!!!”

When they announced it was only going to run for one day I was like “What????”

Clearly they underestimated CNY’s love for pork.

Hell, the Middle Eastern Fest is four days long.  

So I parked my car down at the Inner Harbor with Liam so I didn’t have to pay or fight for parking then strolled up the Creek Walk to the square and let’s say I wasn’t surprised.  

Each vendor line was easily 30 people deep.  Some we’re just lined up to get lemonade.  

So let’s just say they were a little overwhelmed.  

But I did get to sample a few delicious items in between Liam’s requests for M&Ms. 

Bacon Mac and cheese from MacaRollin

Chicken bacon ranch Gyro from Byblos Street Grill

And a ground beef and bacon Pazzerotti (FriedCalzone) from Pascarella’s

Nice idea for this event.  But it needs more time.

August Resolutions :Use A Bullet Journal

If you mind is a busy a mine, the only way to keep all the important imput from going in one ear and out the other is to write it down . 

I write everything down.  Everything.  If I don’t…it’s gone… Only to return at the most inopportune time.  People know this so well  about me that they are constantly reminding me to write things down.  Some do me one better and write it down for me.  

I make lists.  Lists about everything.  To do lists.  Repair lists.  Shopping lists.  Bucket lists. 

The problem is that there was no way I could organize this lists and random notes.  I would lose them and have to start over.  

So I stumbled upon a solution that works for me.  

The Bullet Journal

It’s like a regular notebook but instead of lines it has dots that resemble graph paper for those with artistic ability.  

But the thing that sets it apart is the index.  Because each page is numbered, I can find any note by jotting it down in the index.  

I’m about three weeks in and I love it.  

Fillmore Glen: South Rim Trail

Liam is becoming quite the little hiker.  Traveling almost three miles  yesterday by himself.  

Some highlights included him dragging a 6 foot stick for over a mile  ( no exaggeration).  Then stopping to examine every accorn.  “Scrat corns” he would say.  In reference to the Ice Age movies where the saber toothed squirrel is always on the hunt for acorns.   And his excitement over the newts or salamanders ( I couldn’t tell) near the end of the trail. 

“More wizards, daddy?”