Road Trip to Delaware


Tied up as many loose ends as I could this morning, then packed Patti, Maddex and Liam in the car and pointed the car south for Delaware.  Reheboth Beach to be more specific.

Why Delaware?  1.  It’s on the way to our final destination in Virginia.  2. It’s awesome. 3.  I have fond memories of this area. (always a catch isn’t there?)

It was the last vacation I ever took with my immediate family.   It was the summer of 06 and I was in a very isolated point in my life.  I had just withdrew from College and lost my finance in the same day that past February.

I entered a state of seclusion where I hid from the outside world.  Only emerging  work in restaurants, which was about 80 hours a week.  I had a couple of close friends that refused to let me become a total hermit.

However, my mom besieged me to take a week off to drive her, my grandmother, and younger brother down to see my Aunt in Delaware.

The trip was very therapeutic.  I spent the week thinking about how there was so much more out there.  That I was barely living a “half life”.  When I returned I enrolled in the Culinary Arts Program and began piecing my life together.

Surviving the car ride is the hard part.  Getting down route 81 and then horrifying  476 when you get to Philadelphia and traffic turns into a slow crawl for a good hour.  You’re in the homestretch once your cross into Delaware’s RT 1S.

We made it to our destination about 430PM.  Let the vacation begin.




I know I’m Lame…but I miss Quiznos. 



846eae2ed0503e9e95e8baf1cd4fe7e0Dec. 30st

Like so many other people, I found 2016 to be a not very good year.  But my year was bad because of politics, the economy, or the vast string of celebrity deaths.  As 2016 drew to a close I found myself to probably me the most unhappy that I have ever been.  Unhappy with my work, my marriage, and with life in general.  The problem was that the reason for my unhappiness was unclear.  I had a have job, a recently purchased house, and a beautiful family, but I found myself constantly trying to escape to a new life.

I knew I had to find a way to fix these feelings of discontent.  It wasn’t until I found an audio book named THE HAPPINESS PROJECT, by Gretchen Rubin that I hoped would point me in the right direction.  The Happiness Project Chronicles a year in the life of a NYC wife and mother of two as she makes 12 months of resolutions all centered about making her happier.  Was it easy for her? Of course not.  But after a year of blogging about her experience she found herself the happiest she had ever been and it didn’t require a major life change.  It inspired me to start my own Happiness Project.  January 1st is just around the corner and I can’t wait to get started



December 31st

A little bit about myself before I dive into why I am starting a Happiness project.

I’m 30 years old living in a small suburb near to Syracuse, New York.  I am married with 3 boys.  Maddex (11) technically my step son but I love and care for him like my own, Lucas (5) lives with his Mother in Buffalo when he is not with us. Liam (2) we had shortly after we got married.  My wife Patti and I have been together almost 5 years now.

I work as a General manager in a local restaurant and my wife works a server at a different restaurant.  We don’t rely on babysitters so we have to work opposite shifts which can prove very difficult.

So Why am I starting a happiness project?  As I said about there was no major, defining reason for my unhappiness.  Just a lot of small ones.

– not on the top of my game a work : after three straight years of being in the upper tier of performance in my company, my performance seems to have peaked Now i have slipped into the mediocre at least in my own mind

lack of close relationships: Throughout my life I have only have a couple close friends at a time. My two best friends in my adult life  have both more off intro their own adult lives

lack of relationship with,  my wife Patti : Patti leaving her job and going back to Zebbs (restaurant) added new stress on our relationship. Sure she was making more money which was a huge source of stress when she wasn’t. But now she was working 5 nights a week and going in at 5. Which gave us a few minutes together each of those days. And Monday nights. sometimes we would get luck with a Friday night or Tuesday morning but that was occasional.

amount of time seeing  Luke: my first son Lucas, I have had trouble coping with only seeing him every other weekend. his mother has recently gotten engaged with has been this anxiety escalate.

struggles with work – loosing my right hand and assistant in the middle of the year has proved a challenge. My current management team is good but we still have a lot of growing to do

It’s NYE obviously,

Check out my post explaining exactly what a happiness project consists off.

Then check back  for January’s resolutions

Mother’s Cupboard : James Street, Syracuse

How I have lived in Syracuse for 7 years and not been to this little hole in the wall is beyond me.  IMG_20171018_090330809

Home of the “Whole Frittata” this place was cozy with delicious food.

I ordered the whole Frittata with cheese at $12.  How big could it be?

Holy Hell….

Now only was it the biggest portion of food I have ever seen but it was mouth wateringly good.

Featured on Man vs. Food. Check it out here.


Look Up, Get Up, And Don’t Ever Get Up

After giving the presentation of my lifetime to a room full of my peers, we gathered around to watch the announcements of the award winners for the entire company.

I had really thought is was my year to take home the big prize.  The GM Of The Year.

I had thought I deserved it.  6 straight years of positive sales growth.  1st in the Division, 2nd over all.  Years of ingenuity and personal growth for not only myself but my entire team.

It would have put the feather in a capped to an amazing year long project of both personal and professional achievements.

As it became abundantly clear that my name was not going to be read, my head filled with disappointment.

I then began to think about Michael Irvin’s Hall of Fame Speech.  And I realized that even though I’m going to be disappointed for a while, I will need to pick myself up, redouble my efforts, and never give up.


 sat right here where you are last year and I watched the Class of 2006:  And I said, Wow, that’s what a Hall of Famer is.

Certainly I am not that. I doubted I would ever have the chance to stand before you today. So when I returned home, I spoke with Michael and Elijah . I said, That’s how you do it, son. You do it like they did it. Michael asked, he said, Dad, do you ever think we will be there? And I didn’t know how to answer that. And it returned me to that threshing floor. This time I was voiceless, but my heart cried out. God, why must I go through so many peaks and valleys?

I wanted to stand in front of my boys and say, Do it like your dad, like any proud dad would want to. Why must I go through so much?

At that moment a voice came over me and said, Look up, get up, and don’t ever give up. You tell everyone or anyone that has ever doubted, thought they did not measure up or wanted to quit, you tell them to look up, get up and don’t ever give up.




Beak and Skiff : Take 2

I always get so excited to go apple picking every year, that I rush right out to the apple orchard as soon as it opens in late August or early September.

Which means, I always miss out on the really good varieties.  No more of that.  Today, we dropped Liam off to school and headed out to Beak and Skiff to pick my two favorite apples :  Golden and Red Delicious.

In addition to not having a impatient three year old, we were able to spend more time in the shop.  I can’t get over how cheeky these guys are with some of their decor.

This would explain my ex….

Until next year.


Ten Days On Addrerall

Ten Days On Adderall:

I’m a week in a half into my medication trial for ADHD Treatment and I wanted share with you the pros and cons so far:


Loss of appetite :  Three meals down to one with light snacking in between.

Occasional Insomnia:  I usually have no problem going to sleep, but staying a sleep and staying asleep can sometimes be a struggle.

Irritability :  Short Tempered and Blunt are the norm.  Rubs people the wrong way.

Dry Mouth :  Always thirsty.

Pros :

Focus : I am able to move from task to task without getting distracted or bored.   “I can see clearly now, the rain is gone.”

Problem Solving :  I am able handle challenges that come up during the day without feeling stressed or worn down.

Sustained Energy : No long feeling that mid day lull.

Reduced Anxiety


The cons are very common side effects of the medication while that pros are the desired result.  I have to continue monitoring the effects through regular check ups and testing but so far I am happy with the results.



One Day NYC Bus Trip

I love NYC.  I hate driving there, I hate driving in a city where you have no clue where to go and no one has patience for you to figure it out.  

Then I remembered that I used to go on bus tours  to New York with my high school and baseball team.  

So I booked Patti and I on a one day trip to NYC.  They would drop us off at Bryant Park in Midtown Manhattan then pick us up 8 hours later.  

No traffic, no driving, no tolls.  Perfect.  

Dragged her out of bed at 430 AM.  Not amused by me. 

Earlier in the year when we visited the city, we hung out in Midtown and Brooklyn.  Today we would be roaming Lower Manhattan.  

In classic style…we will be walking.  I already forked over my Metro Card to a stranger on the bus who forgot hers.   

Chrysler and Empire State Building in the distance

Had to be the biggest post office I’ve ever seen.

Alcoholic Ice Cream!!!

Ok…we don’t have an ice cream problem but the Ube Ice Cream at Soft Sweeve is amazing.  Ube is purple yams. 

South Street Seaport.

Bee Farming in Battery Park

Lady Liberty in the distance.

Fearless Girl standing tall in front of the Wall Street Bull.

Donald Trump makes an appearance. 

Turning “Not Now” into “Now

I have struggled with procrastination all my life.   It’s common knowledge that people with ADHD have two concepts of time: Now and Not Now, usually it’s the latter of the two. 

I tried to tackle procrastination earlier in the year.  While it improved greatly I still found myself struggling to get undesirable takes done.

Usually with any tasks that :

  • Don’t interest me
  • Mundane / Routine
  • Took to many steps or time to complete.

This is one area that medication has worked the best.  

Once a task is thrown in front of me I can now do it immediately, regardless if it meets the above criteria.  If I am unable to do it immediately for whatever reason, I write it down immediately to be done later or to be delegated out. 

I’m hoping that I can keep these habits up.